Actually I’m at a loss for words. However my fingers are tapping away on my keyboard, and well, I guess a story has formulated in my heart. This interaction caused continuing spontaneous combustions of sentimental adjectives and nouns and verbs, and all manner of speech erupted and formed sentences. Yet; I’m still at a loss for words.
I’ve been in the “love game,” since I had my first crush. So we’re talking decades ago. I will admit there have been countless trial-based encounters with the opposite sex, which has proven chaos, ridicule and embarrassment have a tendency to ride shot-gun on “blind dates.” And; this actual dating ritual can occur with someone you know. Seriously; you’ve known this individual since middle school. Somehow you two run into each other at the mall or by happenstance, and words form a life of their own, and before you know it you’re sitting in an eating establishment across from a loud, obnoxious, rude replica of a human being. You begin to look around the establishment to see if maybe an alien from space has abducted your “date” and will now board you on to their mother-ship and fly off into nothingness.
Sound familiar? Maybe I’m exaggerating a bit, but we all have encountered or suffered through the “dating phase.” I’m sure there are countless individuals who remained celibate until marriage, and have maintained a “strict and careful” code of marital conduct and bypassed the dating genre, and opted out for “courting” with friends, and after a “trial engagement” stood before the Lord God, clergy-person and family-friends and vowed to never-ever-ever part, even if they are separated by death.
So, you may or may not be that individual who is still waiting on God, or to be loved as opposed to the loss of love, or the never “have been loved at all.” However, I’m convinced someone can attest to a couple of the scenarios with a firm: AMEN!
Personally, I’m loved out! I’ve experienced the fake love, short love, long-distanced love, part-time love, side-line love, no love-just friends-with-benefits- love, promising-one-day-we-will-smash type love, and finally the desperately-needing-to-abort-the-love-mission and fly solo-love. You know like; adopt a puppy or a kitten or both, and call it a life.
I have wonderful news: there is still hope for the latter entourage of “not-interested-it-is-a-jungle-out-there; no daters.” There are a list of scriptures to not only identify with this love-less emptiness, but also a time of refreshing. A time to admit; “if I wasn’t so drained and doubtful God will come bless my life with a spouse; not a significant other, I would regain the intimate nature God provided and nurtured from puberty.” It is a disservice for any human being to feel they are unworthy of love as God designed and fashioned it for our first parents; Adam and Eve. Pain, broken heart and spirit can serve as laborious reminders of past love turned hate. We constantly look to either vindicate or vacate our feelings. God sits upon the throne of grace awaiting His childrens’ cries for recompense. He cries with a heart of compatible pain and suffering. After all; He lost a son for the sake of love.
How can we as individuals thrive with infectious bitterness? Friendships with the opposite sex are platonic, or should be. Friendship turned marriage is likely. However, I’m convinced from the moment God opens your spiritual eyes, you know immediately whether this individual is your helpmate. Marriage is an honorable gift from God. But, I still have only scratched the surface of the point of this article. How do we prepare, recognize and submit even to the mere thought of relationships-turned-marriage.
Primarily; there has to be reconciliation with the Creator of the universe; God the Father (Yahweh, Adoni, Yeoshua, Heavenly Father, Jehovah…) it’s impossible to retrieve and relish in the benefits of true, undivided love without establishing a power point. We were created and formed, from the beginning by an Eternal God who’s primary, and functionary goal was to create a physical conduit to establish His power of love and mutual trust. We in return exemplify and mirror this amazing attribute of God.
· Gen_1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
This amazing image we sometimes blatantly overlook or pervert is an essential prerequisite to realizing you were born to love, and be loved. God has proven His love. He only asks that we recognize that love with spiritual response and repentance. Actually, it is impossible to successfully implement the “rules” of love without first introducing one’s self to the reality of God, and all His being encompasses.
· Joh_3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
God is the epitome of love, and His love is unfailing, unyielding and non-exhaustible. This is what God says about first and foremost the love humanity should embody:
· Mat_5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
· Mat_22:39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
· Joh_13:34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
· Eph_5:2 And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
Until we are consciously and spiritually aware of God’s amazing love for us, and the love He provides for us to love our neighbor, our enemies and those who may not ever love us, we are lacking in the qualities vital to love another intimately.
In closing; ask God to guide you through His Word and point out those areas which disqualify you as a friend. As God continues to nurture your Agape love; He will successfully guide your heart to a place ready and willing to love as man and woman were designed for.
Gen_2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.