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      When You Pray; What Should You Say?

Book Introduction. 

Prayer is simply talking to God. Getting to know Him, and

listening for His responses, through the Holy Spirit. With prayer we are able

to hope in Him, trust in Him and love Him. Prayers don't have to be long,

drawn out sessions that are too time-consuming and so tiresome that

we lose our desire to pray. Of course, I am not saying that there is

anything wrong with longer prays because we need those also. Prayer is

and should be a true delight. When you are free to pray, you do not have to

stick to man's rules about praying. We have to allow the Holy Spirit to

guide us while we pray. God will even help you in what to say, when to say

it and how to go about it.

What Kinds of Prayer?

Prayer's don’t not have to always happen locked in a room, on your knees, with your

head bowed down. They can be short prayers, ideally, throughout the day. For

example, when you are on your way to work there is time to pray. It could be something as simple as praying that God will help you not to lose your temper with the slow traffic or withthe driver in front of you who cut you off. You can say Lord, please help me not to lose my temper and allow this person to ruin my morning. Or you can be in a store behind the lady who has a fist full of coupons. You're late and it's the tellers first day. You can pray Please help me not to be in impatient. When you are at home all day with the kids and they are not listening to you, you can pray, God please help me to discipline in love. Give me wisdom in dealing with my kids. You can even pray a quick prayer in the middle of a conversation with another person. Yes, between taking turns talking. For example, you are having a conversation with your boss, and he is not happy, and you are tempted to get overly emotional You can pray to God, Help me hold back these negative emotions and help me to speak words of wisdom. Help me to have a calming effect on him so the situation does not get any worse. You can be on a walk and pray, Thank you Lord for my life and all your blessings. You can pray anytime of any day, throughout the day. Little prays, short prayers as well as long ones. Your eyes can be open. You can be sitting down, lying down, half asleep in bed. Yes, even the middle of the night.

I like to pray having my first cup of coffee on the patio. The point is, just talk to God. You can throw in quick, pick me up prayers. I like to call them that because these are the immediate prayers, I need an answer quickly or need help prayers. These are the prayers that get me though the day.

Sometimes all I can do is say one word, Help! God honors this type of prayer also. He understands the word help and the situation behind that one word expression. You can pray when eating or before you eat. You can pray out loud or if you are around other people you can pray in your mind or even mumble

under your breath. The point is, pray.

The bible says in Colossians 4:2 “be earnest (sincere), and unwearied (not fatigued), and steadfast (firm in purpose), in your pray life, being both alert and intent in your praying with thanksgiving.” (NKJV) (Emphasize mine) You can and should not only ask for help but you can speak affirmations or statements that are declared to be true in your life. See the Affirmations Page.

Thanking God

You should always thank God for what we have and how He is workingin our lives. We should thank Him every day. Here are great examples ofthese types of prayers:

  • Thank you for this beautiful day.

  • Thank you for the songs the birds sing.

  • Thank you for my blessed wonderful children.

  • Thank you for knowledge, wisdom and understanding of Your Word.

  • Thank you for Your kingdom

There are many scriptures that are about thanksgiving:Give thanks in all you circumstances, for this is the will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV)“I will give thanks to the Lord because of His righteousness and will

sing praises to the name of the Lord Most High.” Psalms 7:17 (NIV)The Bible says that we are to always give thanks to God, the Father for everything. Ephesians 5:15 (NASB) says, “Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise...” VS 19 and 20 “speaking to one another in Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, sing and make melody with your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks for all the things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father.”

We do not pray one time. Always pray and pray for everything. That means all the time, for all reasons or needs that we have. God tells us not to be “anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God.” Phil 4:6 (NIV)

Some religious people might tell you that you have to pray in a certain way, at a certain time of day, using certain words. People even have prayers memorized and they simply recite these prayers over, and over again. In Matthew 6:10-15 (KJV) God did give us a model prayer but he did not mean for us only repeat the same

prayer always. God likes variety. If you notice a couple of verses up in Matthew 6:7 (KJV) it says, “But when ye pray, use not vain repetition as the heathen do, for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be ye not therefore like unto them; for Your Father knoweth what things you have need for, before you ask

Him.” We should pray in our own words, using the model prayer as an example when we pray, like a conversation with someone. We wouldn't call our friend and start a reading from a script saying the same words over, and over ever time that we call would we? No, that would not make sense. Why would we think that God wants to be spoken to in that way? We definitely want to speak to God from our heart.

When to Pray?

You can pray anytime of the day. I feel, for myself, it is beneficial for me to pray when I first get up in the morning. However that is not a rule that I or anyone else has to follow. If you feel more alert in the morning, go for it. If you do your best thinking at night, do it at night. Prayer in the morning is good because you can start your day off right. Being filled with the Holy Spirit to move throughout your day. It helps us have a good attitude no matter what Satan throws our way.

Why Prayer Is Important

Have you ever had a close personal relationship with some one? you have never talked to? It just never happens. Even people in your own family can pull away from you emotionally if there is no communication. So how can we expect to be close to God if we never talk to Him or if we just go through a list of things that we want? We are just pretending to have a relationship with Him. The Bible says in James 4:8 (NIV) “Come near God and He will come near you.” Prayer is imperative for a close, real connection with God.

The other reason prayer is important is that without prayer we leave ourselves open to the attacks of the devil. When we pray, the Holy Spirit becomes active in our lives. It keeps us from harm, protects us from people, situations, and our own bad attitudes and actions. We need all the help we can get. I know that I can't let this world get me down. So I have to pray often.

How God Answers Prayer

God always gives us an answer when we pray. It may not be the answer that we want to hear or it may seem that He is not answering us at all. God hears all our prayers and is interested in answering us back. God's answer is always either yes, no, or not now. We love the yes, hate the no’s and sometimes do not understand the why we have to wait. Especially when it seems like a good plan to you. But no matter the answer, it is the best one for us at that time.Some people say “God said to me”, or “I heard from God.” These types of statements used to scare me a little because I thought they we’re talking about hearing real, audible voices coming from the heavens. God can and does occasionally speak to us in this way, but it is not His normal way of speaking to us. He speaks to our hearts, not usually in a booming, loud voice, but in a gentle whisper in our soul. See 1 Kings 19:12. Some even call it our conscience. The knowing of good and bad, way deep down inside us, at the pit of our stomach. What I do is pray about a situation or a problem, maybe I need to know the best direction or next step to take in my life. So first I pray and ask God for His answer. That's where the yes, no or not right now comes from. However, how do I know what is yes, no, and not right now if I cannot hear a real voice from heaven spelling it out for me in clear understandable vocal words? That's when I stand back, and meditate on the situation. I have to make a list of pro's and con's, but most significantly, I have to have peace one way or the other. Ask yourself, do I have peace when I think of taking this action or direction? Sometimes if I don't feel peace either way with it, I'll just wait and not make a decision at all. While I am waiting, I keep on praying for God to answer my prayer. Other times, I take a step of faith, and I make a move in the direction I feel is best. If I am wrong the Holy Spirit will re-direct me back into God's will for me. I put my faith in the fact that He wants to be part of every decision I make, big ones and little ones.No matter how often you pray, how long you pray, where you pray or even what you pray about, just pray! Hoping in Him, trusting in Him, loving Him and He will always make our paths straight. Remember He is the source of all life. He cares for you immensely and He wants what is best for each one of us no matter where we are spiritually. Prayer is something that no one, not even the devil, can take away from us. Don't let up in prayer, don't give up. When the answers don't come as quickly as we think they should, have faith and courage when we wait on our prayers to be answered. Never stop praying. It is your life line to God. God put it in my heart to write a book on prayers that people can understand and relate to. You don't have to be symmetry student or a pastor to pray successfully. We can all pray like professionals. We just need someone to explain the, who, what, where, and the how to do it. This book of prayers is easy to use. Just look up the subject, and turn to the page and pray along with the passage. I hope these prayers will encourage and enlighten you, like they have me.

By Kristine Mulholland 




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