Gathering Together

     11 Guidelines for Effective Parenting

1.  Really listen…Listening creates clear communication by giving undivided attention and

encouraging expression of feelings. Have real conversations, when you both listen and

respond/react to each other.


2.  Encourage family activities…A sense of belonging is developed by doing things together,

from social activities like driving to the store, going on an outing, or doing something fun

together, to household chores or projects.


3.  Discipline constructively…It is important to give clear directions and to enforce limits on

behavior. Use a positive approach: “Do____”, rather than “Don’t___”.


4.  Be consistent…Discuss and post house rules. If they change, announce the change. Better

yet, have a family meeting to discuss the changes.


5.  Be clear…Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t try to tell the other person

what you think it is they want to hear. Stop being a pleaser… you will never please

everyone, least of which yourself.


6.  Be reasonable and understanding…Be willing to hear your child’s point of view. Have

logic and compassion. Use grace and truth. Speak the truth in love.


7.  Be flexible…Bargaining is an effective tool. Don’t major on the minors. Consider the



8.  Be authoritative…Trust in your own common sense. If you are not sure about a decision,

announce the need for some time to think about it. Then, do not hesitate or be indecisive;

simply lead.


9.  Develop mutual respect…Model basic trust by being honest and sincere yourself. Insist

that all family members treat each other with honor and respect. Be the first to apologize

and repent when you err.


10. Attend to your own needs…Maintain your individuality and cultivate your interests and

talents. Treat yourself well, thus avoiding the martyr syndrome


11. Maintain a sense of humor…Finding humor in life is an important aspect of personal

adjustment. Humor is a decision. It reflects a positive outlook that keeps issues in

perspective, and separates what is really important from what is not



Thanks for your interest and I would love to help you and partner with you going forward.
Here is your Free copy and have attached the link to the E Book version.

Would this partnering/possibility be of some interest to you?

Scott Hammond
Every Day Dad of 9 kids



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